All relationships have holidays and milestones that are celebrated. After a death there is now not only an empty place but a flood of memories. Taking charge of the holiday before it takes control of you will not change the grief but will make it more manageable.
Tips to Help You Cope During the Holidays
- Do what is best for you. Prepare yourself emotionally and physically with meditation/prayer, exercise and diet
- Look your best. Pamper yourself with a new hairstyle, massage, clothes, bubble bath, etc.
- Schedule daily alone time to get yourself together
- Surround yourself with positive people
- Make daily lists; concentration can be hard
- Ask family and friends to discuss your loved one
- Develop new traditions (like a potluck party) with friends
- Donate to a charity in memory of your loved one
- Follow your heart to tell you what feels right
